This person treated me cruelly. They took advantage of my generosity, wasted my time, and accused me of things that weren’t true. The whole thing left me feeling saddened, disappointed, and emotionally drained. My self-righteous first instinct was to play the victim. I wanted to convince this person they were wrong—to make them see how they hurt me, to force an apology, to somehow fix the relationship by changing them. Silly me. Trying to change someone is rarely loving. More often, it’s control cloaked in concern. And the need to…
Read MoreNot that long ago, a close friend betrayed me.
